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Lee Ockenden, LMFT – My Approach

Who we are and how we relate to the world and others is dictated by the meaning we give to our past. But if we choose to find the purpose in our experiences instead of the pain, we find new resources, giving us the catalyst to change, grow, heal and pursue the life we desire and deserve. Traditional therapy was founded in psychoanalysis with the assumption that an individual’s growth and change process was hinged on gaining insight and into their behavioral patterns by processing, free-associating and reflecting on their past. Inside this traditional “treatment culture,” it is not uncommon for a client stay in treatment long periods of time, lasting anywhere from three to seven years or more, including multiple sessions per week. I believe that traditional therapy can foster dependency and create barriers for lasting change. I often hear from new patients who have been to therapy for many years that they felt their last therapist(s) were too passive. Rather than embracing a “backward looking—coping” approach, I embrace a “forward looking—thriving” approach by focusing on resolving barriers to change, identifying solutions and creating choices. This approach, inside a safe supportive and consistent counseling environment, encourages clients to use their own innate resources to heal. In addition, I am also clear that my clients will ultimately find their support and accountability through their partner, family or community and I encourage my clients to create a healthy support system outside the...

Eleven Ways to Achieve a Healthier Life

As important as it is to learn to develop and listen to your own voice, sometimes there are moments when we have to trust to supplant other people’s judgment for our own. I work with a lot of weight loss clients and while they might know the calorie count to every menu item out there, there is often times still a breakdown from theory to practice.  In these cases it is important to structure a system of practice that will serve as a temporary (and yes, artificial) default, until your brain and habits catch up. Along those lines are Eleven Ways to Achieve a Healthier Life. With one great tip each from eleven different voices in the health and fitness industry this Livestrong article covers a lot of ground and certainly is worth the read....

Coaching vs Counseling

In simplistic terms, a therapist’s role is to heal the wounds of the past, and a life coach supports you in moving your life forward. Coaching does not focus on “why,” but “what’s next?” It shifts the client from a problem focused to solution based approached. Coaching is well suited to a goal-oriented person who prefers to make choices and take responsibility for their processes and outcomes. Coaching as an Option   Life coaching is a refreshing approach to personal and professional growth that helps you achieve specific goals and make your unique contributions with focus and ease. Coaching trains you to stop biting the hook that gets you stuck in old dramas, stressful interactions, and emotional suffering. Instead, you learn to shift your attention into the present moment, focus on the intentions that hold meaning and value to you, and take effective action. A coach supports you to define your goals, and stay on target towards achieving them by taking regular, manageable steps that lead to satisfaction in all areas of your life. Be more effective with time and money. Enjoy greater physical vitality. Be more creative and adventurous. Have stronger relationships. In just a few sessions, you will gain clarity, confidence and renewed vision. Coaching empowers you with simple pragmatic tools so that your life experience expands. Daily tasks become rewarding, and interactions with others become authentic. Would you like your life to be easier and more fulfilling? All it takes is a choice to begin. Call a coach today and get started. About the Author Carmen Isais, MA is a transformative coach, professional mediator, business builder...

Decisions, Decisions… How to Stop Fearing and Start Deciding

The last time I checked the DSM-IV (and I try not to check it too often), the treatment of Decidophobia, the fear of making decisions, included everything from “cognitive re-mapping” to anti-depressants. Pretty serious stuff for a common problem. But, if it’s so common, what’s the fuss all about? That is the real damage to indecision? Often, people who fear making decisions tend to vacillate and procrastinate in an effort to avoid the choices they must make. When the fear of making decisions begins to harm the psyche and affect daily life, it can become a serious problem. Even on a lesser level, individuals who vacillate , are ambiguous or procrastinate can hurt others and their relationships with this indecision. Consistent lack of follow through breeds resentment and distrust. Making decisions requires confidence. It requires a degree of certainty. When tough decisions with serious consequences are called for, it can be difficult for some people to know what is best. The fear of making the wrong decision can cause a sort of mental paralysis. Individuals who are unable to be decisive may feel angry and agitated when faced with choices, because they are unsure of themselves. In the business world and in personal life, the choices we make can define us. The decisions we make can be wrong, and if they are, they can be very costly. In our busy world, every day brings a barrage of new decisions to be made. But what if decision making could be as easy and instinctual as  dealing with all those small choices, such as what to order at a restaurant? Effortless Decision Making I’ve been learning...
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